Friday, January 21, 2011

49 Weeks of Words

Okay. So I'm a little behind. Therefore it will be 49 instead of 52.

One of those 'resolutions' I made at the new year, was to be more much more aware of the words I speak and the way I speak them. I am a bit forthright. I am a fan of "telling it like it is." But is it always said "in love"? NO. I believe "honesty is the best policy". But God is showing me that there really is a difference in speaking the truth and speaking the truth in love. (Ephesians. 4:15) "Truth not spoken in love ceases to be truth. Love without truth isn't love." (Paul David Tripp) There's a fine line. I need to find it. I want the wisdom to know the difference. Another part of this big mouth issue is the one of too many words. I can get a little wordy. I am a lover of details. So I usually can talk and talk and talk about something or nothing. Especially in an argument. Especially with John. Not always just him. Sometimes even with my children. Why is that? I am opinionated, and I feel the great need to make them understand agree with my opinion. So I think the more words I say the better chance of them "getting it". Not so true! And sometimes, most times, all the time I should just not say so much. ("In the mulititude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise." Prov. 10:19) My wordiness also comes with a tone. A negative tone. One that is not necessarily "health to the bones." (Prov. 16:24) goal for this year is to memorize one verse every week about "talk". I'm a little apprehensive to make this committment because I know I will fail. I will have a bad day. Someone will get on my nerves. I will get angry. My children will exhaust me. John will start an argument (HA,HA!) We will disagree. And he will remind me. The devil will work overtime. But I am determined. And God's grace is sufficient! I will start Monday.


A careless word may kindle strife.
A cruel word may wreck a life.
A brutal word may smite and kill.
A gracious word may smooth the way.
A joyous word may light the day.
A timely word may lessen stress.
A loving word may heal and bless.


Lori said...

Great idea!! I could use this as well! Eph. 4:29 is one I learned as a junior in high school and has stayed with me. Share them with us on the blog as you learn them:)

LeAnne said...

I think that is a great resolution! Your family is very lucky and blessed to have a mother and wife that is continually seeking God's will and to be more loving. Who could ask for more? I always have to remind myself to be quick to listen and slow to speak. Thanks for sharing!

Ketcham Family said...

so true!

Anonymous said...

WOW!!! Please take me by the neck and drag me along this path with you!!! I am so guilty of using too many words with a negative tone too often!!! It is my constant prayer that God will change my tone and my mouth but I haven't really ever surrendered it to Him! Thank you for this! We'll hold each other accountable when we're on a roll! Speak the truth IN LOVE!!! Love you! - Kristen